Mini Mathur reflects on her 27 years of marriage with Kabir Khan: ‘His EQ is lower…’

Mini Mathur describes her 27-year marriage to filmmaker Kabir Khan as being fundamentally based on a "solid, good old friendship," despite their differing personalities (she's extroverted, he's introverted) and occasional arguments. She notes that while she often initiates reconciliation due to her higher emotional quotient (EQ) in their relationship, Kabir's EQ is higher in his professional life. Psychotherapist Delnna Rrajesh concurs that emotional intelligence is rarely evenly distributed in relationships, where one partner may be more emotionally attuned and expressive. While this can be frustrating for the more emotionally aware partner who often becomes the "emotional compass," Rrajesh emphasizes that this polarity can become a strength if met with acceptance and care. To navigate such dynamics, she advises understanding that lower EQ doesn't equate to a lack of love, valuing the underlying friendship during conflict, recognizing that emotional labor manifests differently, using higher EQ as a bridge rather than a weapon, teaching through invitation instead of demand, and protecting one's own emotional energy. Ultimately, while EQ varies, conscious effort and effective communication are crucial for building stronger relationships.